In the course of your wedding planning, a word will come out most often in the decision making process. Be it about the budget, the suppliers you are getting, the venue, the ceremony and everything else you will decide on as a couple. This word will be the one that would hopefully guide you trough the rigorous wedding preparations.
That word is PRIORITIES.:)
When we were starting out with our wedding preparations, Jp and I talked about our priorities in what we want to prepare for our wedding. It was simply put into providing the best food there is for our guests and securing the best photo/video coverage for our wedding. We figured that our guests will only remember the food they will eat, hence we need to get the best caterer we can afford and the photos plus videos will be the only one left with us after our wedding day.
But as days pass by, I have contemplated what is really important in our wedding. Weddings are after all just a day event and what is left after, which is the marriage itself, is something we would have to focus on. So now our priorities are these two:
*OFFERING OUR WEDDING TO THE LORD ABOVE WHO HAS BLESSED US AND HELPED US REACH THIS POINT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP.
Who but the Lord is responsible with why we are getting married in the first place and what best way to do the Lord the honor IS by offering our wedding to Him.:)
Sometime couples have forgotten that they are getting married to honor the Lord. I am not one to deny that I have lost track of this and was more busy with getting the best suppliers or about the wedding details. Wedding are after all a big commercial industry now, that the last thing couples worry about is the ceremony rites.
I am not one who is religious to the ground but I know and accept who my Lord is. I have faith. And I came to realize that the wedding day itself is not about the suppliers or the reception details but simply our offering of thanks and guidance to the Lord above for guiding us to that day and yes, beyond that. If it were not for the Lord above, we would not be there in the first place. So I am not losing sight of this one.:)
*SHARING OUR WEDDING DAY TO THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE HELPED US IN THEIR OWN SPECIAL WAY IN OUR RELATIONSHIP.
After the Lord, the next would be the people who have helped in their own little way to make us realize that we have the shot to share this lifetime we have with each other. This has been my guidance in getting the best supplier within our budget and finding the venue to hold our wedding. We wanted to make sure our guests will have a really good time because they deserve to have one. If not for these people, we would not be in our wedding day in the first place.
These are the two priorities we are keeping in our hearts for the whole wedding preparations. I think about these two when I try not to get jealous that much about other brides who gets the high-end suppliers or when we cannot afford the supplier I want or when things are tough. I know whoever we have chosen is under the Lord's guidance and our guests would appreciate. With this two, we will never loose sight of what our wedding would and should be.
Because really, a wedding is just for a day and the marriage is the road we will travel on in this lifetime.