All couples go through the same thing. Be it that they will be paying for their wedding or sponsors will be a plenty, all couples at one point will have a dilemma about money. This situation can either make or break a couple. It also serves as a pilot test as to how both parties will handle the hard facts of married life they will have to face head on.
I myself have experienced it as early as now. Jp and I are expecting that we would pay for the whole wedding ourselves. As much as we would want family to share some of the expenses, we are not obliging nor expecting them to do so. We figured it is enough for them to have raised us to where we are right now and we felt it is the most responsible thing to do for adults like us. We also share a common view that this wedding planning will be the dry-run for our married life. Might as well know now how we handle our finances.
At the initial stage of our wedding planning, we already determine a budget and we would have to stick with it. We wanted a Tagaytay wedding and of course we know that it will cost us a lot. But when I started researching, I saw how a wedding today has turned into an industry urging couples to get things that were not in existence before. A wedding before simply meant going to the church in a white dress and then eating afterwards. Now you have a video to worry about, a pre-nup pictorial to attend to, a photo booth or mobile bar to rent and the list goes on. Needless to say, we jacked up our projected budget and saw how much we really needed. It will costs us A LOT hahaha!
But being the stingy person I am, I am determined to keep the budget lower than what we have projected. I scouted for the best suppliers within our price range and haggled and got price locks. PRICE LOCKS are a budgeted bride's bestfriend. DIYs is another. To let you in how useful a price lock is, the P/V coverage we got now costs 9k more including OOT fees. That 9k is now alloted to our lights and sound supplier.:)
Of course there are days when I doubt myself for ever wanting this kind of a wedding. With the money we afford to save, we can already have a downpayment for a condominum unit. We can already own a piece of property we can call our own if we opted to take the "simpler" route.
But then again, when the budget jitters sets in, I think of the reason why we are spending this much. We wanted to have a wedding that not only us to remember but also that of our families. We owe it to them. And we owe it to God that is why we are continously praying that God will provide for us the money we need. We are not asking for a lot after all, we are just asking enough to cover some nice things to have in a wedding.
I always believe that money should never be an issue and that God will give us the money we need when we need it.